We’ve talked about it, and I’ve come to the realization that this last time, I was the one rushing things.
We’d been pushing ahead partly due to a particular scheduling commitment which we’d previously made. It sounded good in theory, but it turned out that trying to do this for external reasons like that just wasn’t working for us.
Figuring this out was actually quite a relief!
Also, I’ve spent some time hanging out on a bbs with all these lifestyle chastity folks which has been a terrific source of information (and inspiration) but it can be difficult to remember not to compare our situation with those of more advanced players who have been doing this for much longer. We’re just not there – and maybe we never will be. And that is OK! We’re figuring it out for us.
While I want to start playing again, I’m a feeling bit cautious due to Lukus having asked to stay out last time I unlocked him for the gym (and a previous somewhat unenthusiastic response). I do want to play again, but I want him to let me know when he is ready. I don’t think that’s too much to ask.
If nothing else, there’s a predicament for you! ;-)
~Kiki
What’s interesting about your predicament is that, on one hand, it’s quite common, but on the other, very uncommon. Rushing into it once you get a taste is something nearly every man who’s dabbled with his partner can relate to, but it’s not usually something the female side of the equation is pushing. She’s usually the foil trying to take it all in and adjust while he’s trying to go to warp 8 out of the gate.
The good thing is, taken slowly and at a pace you can *both* accomodate, there’s a good chance it can take root and become a fruitful facet of your relationship. But you know that, don’t you? ;)